Some women trap rich men with pregnancy to make money
A frustrated 41-year-old single father from Kanye, Keafiwa Laetsang, is frustrated at being denied access to his children by his baby mama, despite fully providing financial support.
Suggesting that he is only being used to splash out child maintenance money that even benefits the woman personally than the kids he has little to no access to, Laetsang advises women with similar conduct to desist from seeing treating the state of being a baby mama as a career from which to milk money from men while pretending to be doing it for the children.
He says this is because oftentimes, the women even forget that they should also contribute to the upbringing of their children, as with his baby mama who acts indifferent to his request to see his children because what he pays is deemed unsatisfactory by the woman, while to him it is a lot of money.
Whenever he pleads to check on his children, his ex-lover often threatens him with her relatives that they will take action against him if he asks to visit. Laetsang suspects that some women are influenced by their current boyfriends to demand money from the fathers of their children, sometimes even twice a month.
"I think baby mamas are influenced by their current boyfriends to source money from baby daddies they long parted ways with, and it is not right at all," Laetsang fumed.
Rebecca Mokolwane, 41, echoed the same sentiments expressed by Laetsang. She said some women exploit their children by demanding money from their fathers, particularly in situations where the parents are no longer together.
Mokolwane shared her own experience.
"My ex-boyfriend once claimed he supported children that weren't his. I disregarded his remarks and continued raising the children without his assistance.
“Now, he bothers me and seeks involvement in the lives of the children he previously denied were his," Mokolwane said.
Other parents highlighted the challenges of step-parenting, especially when one parent remarries, leaving their child's other parent behind.
Mokgabo Morekise emphasised the pain of witnessing long phone conversations between an ex-partner and their former spouse, supposedly about the child.
"It's tough when the baby mama gets married. It seems like she gives more attention to the baby daddy. Sometimes, the new husband feels uneasy, and tensions rise, leading to unnecessary conflicts," Morekise explained.
Another Kanye resident, Tepo Lekhaneyana, affirmed that some women view the role of a baby mama as a career.
"Some women target men with reputable careers and trap them with children to support themselves," he explained.
He observed that some baby mamas are not concerned about having multiple children with different men, as long as these men are employed and financially stable.
"I believe that parenthood should be a shared responsibility, not just a financial strategy," Lekhaneyana added.
An Australian parenting website, raisingchildren.net, highlights the importance of finding a balance when parents work together for the benefit of their child.
This balance, according to the website means that both parents should play an active role in their child's life and make decisions with their child's best interests in mind. Developing a plan together, or with the support of a mediator, can make things clearer and improve cooperation between parents.
This plan should cover important aspects like visitation schedules, education, finances, medical needs, and special occasions. It is also crucial for parents to be flexible, share responsibilities, and keep each other informed.
By focusing on what's best for the child and maintaining open communication, parents can navigate challenges more effectively and create a nurturing environment for their children's well-being.
Suggesting that he is only being used to splash out child maintenance money that even benefits the woman personally than the kids he has little to no access to, Laetsang advises women with similar conduct to desist from seeing treating the state of being a baby mama as a career from which to milk money from men while pretending to be doing it for the children.
He says this is because oftentimes, the women even forget that they should also contribute to the upbringing of their children, as with his baby mama who acts indifferent to his request to see his children because what he pays is deemed unsatisfactory by the woman, while to him it is a lot of money.
Whenever he pleads to check on his children, his ex-lover often threatens him with her relatives that they will take action against him if he asks to visit. Laetsang suspects that some women are influenced by their current boyfriends to demand money from the fathers of their children, sometimes even twice a month.
"I think baby mamas are influenced by their current boyfriends to source money from baby daddies they long parted ways with, and it is not right at all," Laetsang fumed.
Rebecca Mokolwane, 41, echoed the same sentiments expressed by Laetsang. She said some women exploit their children by demanding money from their fathers, particularly in situations where the parents are no longer together.
Mokolwane shared her own experience.
"My ex-boyfriend once claimed he supported children that weren't his. I disregarded his remarks and continued raising the children without his assistance.
“Now, he bothers me and seeks involvement in the lives of the children he previously denied were his," Mokolwane said.
Other parents highlighted the challenges of step-parenting, especially when one parent remarries, leaving their child's other parent behind.
Mokgabo Morekise emphasised the pain of witnessing long phone conversations between an ex-partner and their former spouse, supposedly about the child.
"It's tough when the baby mama gets married. It seems like she gives more attention to the baby daddy. Sometimes, the new husband feels uneasy, and tensions rise, leading to unnecessary conflicts," Morekise explained.
Another Kanye resident, Tepo Lekhaneyana, affirmed that some women view the role of a baby mama as a career.
"Some women target men with reputable careers and trap them with children to support themselves," he explained.
He observed that some baby mamas are not concerned about having multiple children with different men, as long as these men are employed and financially stable.
"I believe that parenthood should be a shared responsibility, not just a financial strategy," Lekhaneyana added.
An Australian parenting website, raisingchildren.net, highlights the importance of finding a balance when parents work together for the benefit of their child.
This balance, according to the website means that both parents should play an active role in their child's life and make decisions with their child's best interests in mind. Developing a plan together, or with the support of a mediator, can make things clearer and improve cooperation between parents.
This plan should cover important aspects like visitation schedules, education, finances, medical needs, and special occasions. It is also crucial for parents to be flexible, share responsibilities, and keep each other informed.
By focusing on what's best for the child and maintaining open communication, parents can navigate challenges more effectively and create a nurturing environment for their children's well-being.
