HOW TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND

"I will see you back at home darling" Sebaga's husband said as he kissed her. They were at that famous eating-place in the CBD. He walked away leaving Sebaga and her friend. "Honey, please don't forget to buy the cot I asked you to buy. Tomorrow I am going for my sister's baby shower," Sebaga told her husband. He paused and looked at her then said, "Consider it done. I'll buy it on my way." Sebaga's husband walked away."You two are such a lovely couple. How do you make him do things for you and treat you so special? How do you keep your husband that loving towards you?" Sebaga's friend asked as they both watched her husband leave. Sebaga smiled and said, "It's simple. It's actually quite easy." "Easy? My husband doesn't treat me half the way your husband does" Sebaga's friend wondered. "That's the first place you go wrong. Comparing your husband with other people's husbands. Once your husband senses that, he will stop making effort. Stop complaining; start inspiring him to treat you like his queen. A queen does not nag," said Sebaga."Inspire him, how?" Sebaga's friend asked. "Make him admire you by how you dress, your speech, your intelligence, your progress in your individual life. When a man starts to date a woman, he does so because he admires her. Sadly, many women forget themselves when they become a couple. A man wants to be wowed by his wife's brilliance. Don't let your life be only about your marriage. Do great things as an individual, touch lives, succeed in your career, your business, be valuable in society be the kind of woman people will tell him he has a great wife. Make him proud. Keep him admiring you and your personal growth. Have more value than just being a good wife who gives him sex," Sebaga told her friend. "And here I am thinking all a man wants is sex," Sebaga's friend wondered. "Don't get me wrong. Sex is important. But for a husband, he wants sex with the right attitude. If a woman is great in sex but her attitude towards her husband is pathetic outside of sex; he will take the sex and avoid you when sex is not the agenda. And if your attitude is so bad he will avoid sex too. Great sex is not enough. But if you treat him so good, with the right attitude, he will love your company. He will constantly be horny for you. He will crave for you. You will be his best friend, the best friend he is sexually attracted to," Sebaga told her friend. "If you want him to do things for you, do things for him.Demonstrate to him how you want him to treat you by how you treat him. Do things that matter to him. And when you do, don't make a big deal out of it. Don't brag about it. Be the gentle force that makes him look good. Don't to it with conditions, that it will be tit for tat; that if he doesn't do ABCD, you will not do XYZ. Love inspires love," Sebaga added. "But I hate it when he does more for others than for me," Sebaga's friend complained. "I don't think that is true. You perhaps fail to notice the many little things he does for you and focus on all the things he doesn't do. Don't be clingy. Be secure in your being his wife. Sometimes give him his space.Don't seem desperate. Don't beg him to come home early or think making a fuss will make him do what you want him to do. Lure him. A woman who is comfortable in her beauty and worth is attractive. A man gets tired when he gets fed up with a woman who keeps saying you don't do this or that for me," Sebaga told her friend. Sebaga's friend laughed saying, "Oh my, I am so guilty of that. Sebaga's phone rang. It was her husband calling to ask about the colour she preferred for the cot."I love how you talk to each other," Sebaga's friend said. "That reminds me of my last point. The tone of your voice when you talk to him over the phone, face to face, in private and in public. Speak to him with love and he will love your voice and your requests. Husbands feel good and confident when they feel they are the cause of the glow of their wife. Men love compliments too," Sebaga said. "Let me call up my husband. Let me inspire him to love me," said Sebaga's friend.

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