JUST SEX
Studies have shown that a significant percentage of women do not reach orgasm through penetration alone during sexual intercourse, and often require clitoral stimulation, says Sexual Health Educator, Lisa Welsh.
Welsh was speaking at this year’s edition of the Just Sex event under the topic, 'Light My Fire,' held at Aquarian Tide Hotel on Friday evening. With each instalment of the event, the audience is always taken on a journey of discovery to unchartered territories.
Having informed the intimate audience about this open secret, she then posed a question to them: where is the clitoris?
The audience was divided, with some noting that it is located at the labia majora or the big lips of the vagina, some a bit confused, while others got the answer partly right.
According to Welsh, while the part of the clitoris that is eternally visible is small, the clitoris is actually a much larger and complex organ.
The clitoris develops, as does the penis, from the genital tubercle of the foetus, and plays a major role in female sexual response. “It extends inside the body. It comprises of more than 8 000 nerve endings,” she explained.
The first step to light one’s fire, says Welsh, is for both men and women to understand their genitals in general, which will give them an idea of which buttons to push if they wish to drive their partner crazy, and the clitoris - and
how it can change sexual enjoyment - happens to be one of these organs.
Secondly, she says that partners each need to understand their genitals specifically, which will come in handy when it comes to guiding their partners on how to navigate their way around their bodies.
The third step to light your fire is to add some lighters. These include communication in various ways such as via single words, non-verbal, or dirty talk, says Welsh.
One of the revelations that she made is that the narrative that a successful sexual experience requires both partners to experience orgasm at the same time, is false. Instead, she highlighted that the concept of synchronised orgasm simultaneously is a common misconception often perpetuated by media and unrealistic expectations.
Speaking to The Midweek Sun on the sidelines of the workshop, the event organiser, Michelle Phetlhe of ESTERES Boutique Agency, explained that the event was established in 2018. Part of the proceedings for Friday, included an intimate afternoon workshop which was strictly by invitation.
Ladies especially, she says, felt that the workshop was explosively liberating. It is on this basis that they have started working on the next session of Just Sex workshop in the first quarter of 2024, which will be open to the public.
“A lot of hard work, blood, sweat and tears have gone into ensuring that every year ESTERES fulfils its mandate to host two Personal Development events for those who have a vested interest in learning and attending sessions which will inevitably enrich the quality of their lives.
“These being Women Etiquette Brunch and Just Sex Sexology Sexual Health and Wellness Event respectively,” she explained.
Welsh was speaking at this year’s edition of the Just Sex event under the topic, 'Light My Fire,' held at Aquarian Tide Hotel on Friday evening. With each instalment of the event, the audience is always taken on a journey of discovery to unchartered territories.
Having informed the intimate audience about this open secret, she then posed a question to them: where is the clitoris?
The audience was divided, with some noting that it is located at the labia majora or the big lips of the vagina, some a bit confused, while others got the answer partly right.
According to Welsh, while the part of the clitoris that is eternally visible is small, the clitoris is actually a much larger and complex organ.
The clitoris develops, as does the penis, from the genital tubercle of the foetus, and plays a major role in female sexual response. “It extends inside the body. It comprises of more than 8 000 nerve endings,” she explained.
The first step to light one’s fire, says Welsh, is for both men and women to understand their genitals in general, which will give them an idea of which buttons to push if they wish to drive their partner crazy, and the clitoris - and
how it can change sexual enjoyment - happens to be one of these organs.
Secondly, she says that partners each need to understand their genitals specifically, which will come in handy when it comes to guiding their partners on how to navigate their way around their bodies.
The third step to light your fire is to add some lighters. These include communication in various ways such as via single words, non-verbal, or dirty talk, says Welsh.
One of the revelations that she made is that the narrative that a successful sexual experience requires both partners to experience orgasm at the same time, is false. Instead, she highlighted that the concept of synchronised orgasm simultaneously is a common misconception often perpetuated by media and unrealistic expectations.
Speaking to The Midweek Sun on the sidelines of the workshop, the event organiser, Michelle Phetlhe of ESTERES Boutique Agency, explained that the event was established in 2018. Part of the proceedings for Friday, included an intimate afternoon workshop which was strictly by invitation.
Ladies especially, she says, felt that the workshop was explosively liberating. It is on this basis that they have started working on the next session of Just Sex workshop in the first quarter of 2024, which will be open to the public.
“A lot of hard work, blood, sweat and tears have gone into ensuring that every year ESTERES fulfils its mandate to host two Personal Development events for those who have a vested interest in learning and attending sessions which will inevitably enrich the quality of their lives.
“These being Women Etiquette Brunch and Just Sex Sexology Sexual Health and Wellness Event respectively,” she explained.
