Case of the ex: the good, the bad and the ugly
The ink has hardly dried on his divorce papers but it seems like he has moved on.
Media personality and government public relations whizz, Thobo Tlhasana set tongues wagging recently when he posted a picture of a pretty yellow-bone as his #WCW. For those living under a rock, WCW, stands for Woman Crush Wednesday. Every Wednesday, Facebook users post a picture of a woman they love or admire, as a way of celebrating her.
The woman in the picture is known as Lorraine, Tlhasana’s baby momma (mother to his 7 year old first born son). While he could have just been celebrating her for raising his son, speculation has been rife that the two have rekindled their romance. It appears that Tlhasana has a weakness for the pretty and petite with flowing tresses. Lorraine and Tlhasana’s equally well-known former wife, Gaona Tlhasana, were once known to be “besties” (good friends) before Tlhasana the gent ran off with the media personality leaving his baby momma in the lurch, baby in arms (literally).
After a four year marriage, the golden couple called it quits, which saddened many Batswana who loved them and felt them to be a perfect match. Rumours are circulating thick and fast that Tlhasana has retraced his steps back to Lorraine. But whatever the case, it seems like Tlhasana’s ex wife, Gaona Tlhasana will not be crying herself to sleep.
The gorgeous media personality recently put lid on the issue of her failed marriage on a Botswana Television lifestyle show Sedibeng, admitting that while her marriage was over, she had accepted it and had counselled herself. She said that she and Tlhasana the gent still “love and respect each other; that being divorced does not mean that they should hate each other.” Pretty mature, ain’t it? Break-ups are never easy and exes can be a pain in the butt at times. Drama often abounds.
Who will ever forget the drama that ensued when Charma Gal and ex husband Kabelo Mogwe of Culture Spears called it quits and the lady hooked up with an apparently rich boyfriend before the divorce was finalised? Their dirty linen hung out for all and sundry, and just as the dust had settled, it transpired that one ex to Charma Gal’s new beau was suing him for money spent during their short-lived affair. Phew! But it is not only celebrities who deal with break up dramas and ex-show downs.
Lala Mogotsi* admits that sometimes love can go wrong but some exes do not want to move on. “”I dumped my boyfriend after four years of dating last year, and he did not take it well. The truth is, I fell out of love with him and felt we had nothing in common. He keeps in contact with me and stalks me through social media. I wish he could just move on. I recently saw that he had pictures with what seems like a new girlfriend on Whatsapp; he intentionally sent me a message so that I could see the picture. I find his behaviour childish but I ignore him because I know that I will not go back to him. I just think that people should move on with their lives amicably when a relationship does now work out.”
Her experiences are different from a lady who did not want to divulge her name, who admits that being dumped can be a nightmare but one should be civilised and move on. “My ex, who was my second boyfriend, dumped me shortly affter I had our baby. I had dropped out of school to have his child. I was angry and bitter.
I felt I had given up so much for that man but over time I began to let go. I eventually cut off communication channels with him and focused on my own life; I got a piece job, a drivers’ licence, completed my studies and eventually landed a better job. My focus was to care for my elderly parents and daughter. I found that being preoccupied with my own improvement kept me busy and left little time to be bitter and angry.”
Interestingly, the ex has now come out of the wood work and wants to reconcile with the lady. “I have a new man who loves and respects me. That ex sees that my life is better; I have a car, house and a business, and he suddenly wants me back. He says that he wants to see his daughter, who he last saw five years ago. I was having none of it but my boyfriend said I should not deny my child a relationship with his father. She will know what kind of man his father was when she is older. He can visit her, but as for me, I have no time for him. I do not hate him but I do not like him either.”
Earlier this year, a guidance and counselling teacher in Francistown was sentenced to jail for arson. The lady, who had apparently been dumped by her soldier ex, burnt down the soldiers’barracks in the city in a fit of rage. So yes, sometimes ex grow horns and long tails when love goes wrong.