BATSWANA BAD AT SEX
For a long time, majority of Batswana have been shying away from holding conversations about sex and according to local author, Kagiso Bareki, many relationships and marriages do not last because of poor sex life. Speaking during Gamaila Authors Empowerment Session and Exhibition, Bareki hinted that bad sex has destroyed majority of marriages and love affairs, hence he saw the need to write his book dubbed ‘Sex and Intimacy,’ which mainly teaches people how to have sex. He has written 16 books, mainly Christian books and some novels. He encourages authors to keep writing books and confidently shares that writing books has destroyed his ability to work for someone else, as it is a career on its own. Bareki said he wrote his most talked about book ‘Sex and Intimacy’ after he realised that majority of Batswana are bad at having sex, both men and women. “We have never been taught how to have sex, we have been taught how to communicate and how to budget but not how to have sex. The book I wrote capitalises on ‘how to,’ that couples need to properly do the foreplay, massages and know how to kiss during sex,” he said. Asked whether there is a specific gender that needs to be taught how to have sex Bareki said that all genders are affected.“Re na le mathata. This sex issue is wrecking marriages and love affairs. Sex is a topic that we often avoid because some are just ashamed to speak about it openly, yet it is important,” he added. Bareki has challenged married couples to create a proper environment for sex, further stating that there are things specifically designed for sex, such as enhancements, food and sex furniture that accommodate many sexual positions. “There are foods to eat during sex, yet many couples do not eat during sex,” said Bareki. He also said the book includes rules of sexual enjoyment, vaginal dryness and many other interesting topics. He shared with authors that he promotes his books through the internet and that he has already sold 10 000 copies. Other authors who graced the event were Koziba Sebina, who is a professional speaker and international success coach, Belinda Lekone who spoke about her book, ‘Against all Odds’ and Member of Parliament for Kanye South Abram Kesupile.